Truly magnificent piece of reporting. Congratulations. An interesting study by Salvatore Maddi, University California in 1980’s followed 430 employees of Illinois Bell, when the company was going through breakup. Many employees suffered chronic stress, divorce, substance abuse etc, but they found a cohort of one-third fared very well. When they investigated their backgrounds they found the same as most other employees who did not do well, except that they were encouraged to believe they were special and their privations were a preparation for their future leadership. In other words they were taught by their parents to transcend chronic stress as a preparation for leadership. Hormesis allows us to sublimate chronic stress into utility.
This, of course isn’t new. Thank you for putting it together it was nicely done. But I think venting is a valuable tool to help release that anger. Talk therapy for example. I see what has happened on the last week as group talk therapy. Oster was the trigger. I personally feel better for expressing my feelings. I also feel less ashamed for my anger. I am happy to know I am not alone with these feelings. Personally my sense of well being has increased.
Excellent and inspiring summary, and a good reminder of the benefits of managing our inner state.
We do, however, have to differentiate between a state of actively feeling anger, and simply cataloguing certain people based on their demonstrated behavior into our mental personae non gratae file.
This is about having an internal locus of control. Feeling anger because of a loss of control, a loss of safety, is probably much worse than allowing negative feelings to create safety. I choose to not associate with people that cannot be trusted, whose presence is not a positive force in my life. Perhaps that, to some, is a negative holding onto anger and not forgiving and forgetting, but I find the latter unwise and feel empowered by my ability to discern who is worth my time and good for me. Many have lost my respect, some will never have my goodwill or friendship anymore. What I aspire to is to, in regards to such people, be like the Mad Men character Don Draper who famously stated “I don’t think about you at all”.
Truly magnificent piece of reporting. Congratulations. An interesting study by Salvatore Maddi, University California in 1980’s followed 430 employees of Illinois Bell, when the company was going through breakup. Many employees suffered chronic stress, divorce, substance abuse etc, but they found a cohort of one-third fared very well. When they investigated their backgrounds they found the same as most other employees who did not do well, except that they were encouraged to believe they were special and their privations were a preparation for their future leadership. In other words they were taught by their parents to transcend chronic stress as a preparation for leadership. Hormesis allows us to sublimate chronic stress into utility.
This, of course isn’t new. Thank you for putting it together it was nicely done. But I think venting is a valuable tool to help release that anger. Talk therapy for example. I see what has happened on the last week as group talk therapy. Oster was the trigger. I personally feel better for expressing my feelings. I also feel less ashamed for my anger. I am happy to know I am not alone with these feelings. Personally my sense of well being has increased.
Excellent and inspiring summary, and a good reminder of the benefits of managing our inner state.
We do, however, have to differentiate between a state of actively feeling anger, and simply cataloguing certain people based on their demonstrated behavior into our mental personae non gratae file.
This is about having an internal locus of control. Feeling anger because of a loss of control, a loss of safety, is probably much worse than allowing negative feelings to create safety. I choose to not associate with people that cannot be trusted, whose presence is not a positive force in my life. Perhaps that, to some, is a negative holding onto anger and not forgiving and forgetting, but I find the latter unwise and feel empowered by my ability to discern who is worth my time and good for me. Many have lost my respect, some will never have my goodwill or friendship anymore. What I aspire to is to, in regards to such people, be like the Mad Men character Don Draper who famously stated “I don’t think about you at all”.
Thanks